A Long To-Experience list, just one life!

There is no such thing as perfect couples. Beneath their visible perfection are hiding some grave compromises unknown to the world. Believe it or not, even the meant-to-be couples would nod to this, cause it is so true.

One such couple I know, cause I am a common friend to them, and I know them personally even before they got to know each other.

In an insane love with things going well, the guy supports her big decisions and the girl supports his unspoken dreams. The girl I know, is independent, fierce and a tomboy, but least one would know that she's hopelessly romantic inside with childlike, playful heart that likes to be surprised like every other girl would want to. The boy is quite mature of his age. He is self-made, responsible and caring though lacks the power of expressing his feelings in a true manner to his girl. So while girl fell for his nature, compassionate heart and infinite unexpressed reasons that just clicked right, the guy was caught himself off guard against her strong will, all things silly and an understanding loyal heart. Together they laugh, crack jokes, and support each other to become whatever they want to be.

Though, clearly there be times when she finds herself unhappy, unloved and frustrated, and our guy just doesn't understand why in spite of trying everything he could, she couldn't recognize his endeavors.
Together they are definition of a perfect couple for everyone they know, but who knows what happens in real. No one.

So, who is wrong here? The boy who loves her dearly but couldn't express it or our girl who can't get her mind off him yet stays angry with him?

Perhaps, that's what happens over a period of time. When you have overcome all the good & bad things you knew about each other and expects a lot more and meanwhile, the 'more' of each other starts to unfold. And although you only have each other, you keep having troubles in your paradise. While one can't satiate their partner's emotional cravings, the other doesn't find what they used to be in the beginning and struggle in balancing their actions between the old and new them. Cause, even after all this, you both know that you have one crazy mad love that nobody else can give you.

So what's the solution for a couple to be happy? Compromises, which they must get so used to,  that it doesn't even bother anymore.
Acceptance, that there will be expectations they need to let go off to stay happy.
It takes time to excel these, but once it happens you both are changed for good.
There is no such thing as perfect couples. Beneath their visible perfection hide some of the grave compromises unknown to the world and accepting each other the way they are. And in them you find a 'perfect couple' to look up to.

(Subah-e-Banaras with Siberian birds and some lemon tea in mind-numbing breeze)

That's true, wake up at 5 in the morning and roam about the lanes and you would find early birds moving around, perhaps towards a nearest Ghat (the bank of river Ganges). The tinkling temple bells, chanting prayers, and aroma that never wait for a sunrise would follow you as you move.

Having my roots from Banaras (Varanasi) is a privilege for me to travel the city anytime I want and have a gala time with all my cousins. But it wasn't until my recent trip of the year-end that helped me explore the holy city more closely than ever. Since the city has a lot to offer so every time I returned from there, I knew I have missed on something. Of course in all my past trips, I also ran out of time. But for this time I unchecked almost [:p] everything off my to-do/see list. From exploring the well maintained ruins of Sarnath to the ill-maintained city king's Fort in Ramnagar, savoring the drool-worthy sweetmeats to the famous tangy Tamaatar chaat and banarasi paan, I didn't refrain myself from anything that came on my way.

So here in this blog I would be sharing a recommended list via locales of famous & not-so-famous places and what you may/must experience when you visit the holy city of Varanasi .

1. Subah-e-Banaras - Experience the Sunrise & Ganga Arti

(Ganga Arti at Assi Ghat @ 5:30am, behind priests rests Ganga)

This is the first thing you should put on your list. An experience one of a kind. Better to experience it in early morning than in evening. Every Ghat in Banaras performs Ganga Arti twice a day. I witnessed it at 5:30 in a morning of late December at Assi Ghat. The Arti is performed by 7 priests preceded with 7 girls chanting mantras, hymns, and Ganga Prayers.

After which the Yagya is performed followed with a daily Yoga session. By the time Yagya completes, sun takes it place. Now you can walk though the Ghat to lose yourself in tranquil and majestic scenic beauty of Holy Ganga.

2. A visit to Sarnath

Located at about 12km away from Varanasi, the peaceful city of Sarnath holds,

a. The Dhamekh Stupa (known as the holy seat of Lord Buddha where he delivered his first sermon) founded by the King Ashoka,  with a vast park around having relics and ruins all over.

b. Mulgandhakuti Temple, A buddhisht temple where Lord Buddha used to meditate. The temple so high as 110 feet huge, makes you feel that you are in Nepal. The passage adjacent to the temple takes you towards the animal and bird sanctuary known as Sarnath Deer Park.

c. Sarnath Museum, an archaeological museum of excavated relics from Dhamek Stupa park. Please note, the electronics are strictly prohibited inside the museum. In case of carrying any, submit the same at the entrance.

d. Sarnath Deer Park- An animal and bird sanctuary

e. Lots of inner peace.

f. Don't miss Chaukhandi Stupa locally known as Seeta ki Rasoi. It marks the first visit of Mughal emperor Humayun in the city. It's located about 600m distance from Sarnath temple.

3. Fort Ramnagar

Ramnagar fort is located about 14km away from Varanasi and on the opposite side bank of the river (Also, opposite to Tulsi Ghat). A 166 years old fort that showcases, a museum of vintage vehicles , battle weapons, pistols, rifles etc, used in 17th century. The museum seems remarkable but its maintenance will let you down, the museum exit leads you to a drawing room like hall where you will find paintings of all the succeeded kings during that era and a beautiful & huge center table.

Downstairs the museum is a passage towards the Vyas Mandir situated on the top backside of the fort. In the times, the queen used this passage to bathe in the Ganga followed by offering prayers to Vyas Mandir. It was such an ethereal experience to pass through it. Take a look on the roof, you will find numerous bats hanging there. Creepy ehh! No need to panic. Better glance and ignore and they will ignore you too. Keep stepping down and you will see a stone-made tortoise on your right side. It marks the water level for when come floods in the river. It's known that no matter how high a flood comes, it never goes above the mouth of tortoise.

Points to note:

Mobile phone is allowed but any kind of photography is prohibited inside the museum and hall.

Once you step out of one zone, you can't go back inside unless you buy a new ticket and begin again from the entrance. So take your time and make sure you see everything at one go.

4. Lal Bahadur Shastri Niwas

Within a walking distance from the Ramnagar fort is where you will locate the house. A lesser known fact: The Lal Bahadur Shastri's paternal home is in Varanasi. Avoid taking any auto/rickshaw, just ask the whereabouts from the locals around for them to guide you with the direction. We found a bunch of kids who walked us through. The house is a two-story building which is in process to convert into a museum. The room you will enter first displays the old and rare photos of the time and life of second Prime Minister of the Independent India. Adjacent to it is an alley-cum-veranda that leads you to the well maintained rooms of the actual house. The rooms look just the way they would have been in old times. The stairs takes you to the first floor. Similar experience, clay colored painted walls and the floor will make you touch them to get the real feel.

5. Man Singh Ki Vedshala

6. The Boat Ride

Take a boat ride along the banks of Ganga or just cross the river and go to the opposite side for a beach fun. Best time to go for it is either early morning or late evening. I enjoyed the boat ride from Dashashmedha Ghat and Man Mandir Ghat that are next to each other.

5. What to Eat and Where

The Usual Breakfast

The city offers quite a many options, Chooda Matar (different version of Poha), Ghughri-Jalebi (Ghugri is prepared with spiced black gram/peas), Kachori Sabji, Aloo-poori, and usual south Indian breakfasts. Pick first three for an authentic flavor that city provides. No specific place, look out for a slightly hygienic roadside stall (difficult to locate) or head to Dina Chaat Bhandar or Kashi Chat Bhandar. Rating: Great.

Tamaatar chaat

A kind of chaat that you might have never heard of or had before. Made of tomatoes and mashed potatoes it's served with tiny namak pare (salty flour crispies) in kulhads (terracotta cup). Enjoy it at it best taste at Dina Chaat Bhandar or Kashi Chaat Bhandar. Rating 5/5

Laung Lata

One just can't get away without trying it out. A sweet patty dipped in sugar syrup, stuffed with mawa, dry fruits, and a generous taste of grounded cloves. A sweet so delicious with a different taste. Recommendation: Do not try any famous sweet shop as those big shops won't justify its taste. Better find decent local street market sweetmeat shops to savor the pleasure. Apologies, I was so lost in the taste that I completely forgot to click its photo! Rating: 5/5

Lemon tea

Do not miss to taste it once. You won't have to visit a shop for it. Just go to any Ghat and you will find tea-sellers roaming around, especially during early mornings and late evenings. A hot beverage slightly colored with tea and infused with lemon, black pepper, cloves and a few spices it is super tasty.  Though some of the people might not build a taste for it. Rating 5/5

Thandai

There is no definite place to enjoy a glass of it. Out of too many flavors go for Banarasi Thandai. You need to tell them to avoid or add Bhang. A dollop of cream would be on it without a miss. Rating-4/4

Lassi

I found the thickest lassi of my life at a shop near Lal Bahadur Shastri's Niwas. Amazing taste, thicker, high on calories, served with dollops of cream and Rabri on the top, even if you take the smaller glass you'll face trouble finishing it off. Rating-4.5/5.

Well, that's about it. There are many such places known-unknown i.e. Anand Park near Durga kund and a nearby Golgapppe vala. Lesser known sweetmeat shops when the Ksheer Sagar franchise is everywhere. It is always a great experience to explore the holy city for something new every time. My next trip to Varanasi would be to explore the darker side of the city such as, the mysteries behind Aghoris, mysterious ghats like Mani karnika and harishchandra ghat, and lot more.

Till the time, hoping to come up with a few more travel blogs anytime sooner. Till then enjoy and let me know your thoughts on this one.